Hello friends. It’s day 174 sober, Today was the end of my work season that means less work ahead and more writing. Feeling a bit tired, worked 14 hrs. yesterday but feeling positive and a bit sleepy. I’ve been working 60 plus hrs a week so I am in much need of a haircut, shaving, new glasses, gym, rest, Mani and Pedi. All well deserve.
A few days ago a site contacted me wanting me to write articles. I am beyond grateful. Sober life equals unimaginable dreams, so this weekend i’ll be writing my first article. Growing up I never thought I would be a writer. A poor, welfare kid, with addicts as parents, is no longer my story I carry on my back. I used that story to be mediocre and as an excuse for bad behavior. Now I take complete ownership for every part of my life. Being sober has brought a lot of clarity. This past year my life has done a complete 360. I have had some time to reflect on my past relationship this week. I realized just because it didn’t work out doesn’t mean it was not a successful relationship. It was beyond successful. Some of the best moments of my life so far, I laughed and ate nice cheese, meet some cool people and had so much love around but the most important part is I am sober because of it. Those 3 years open me up to real love, I never knew I could love that deep or capable of connecting with someone on that level. I took away so many life-lesson and is blessed and grateful he saw something in me before I saw it in myself. If you see someone struggling, reach out and call them out. I believe there are many soul mates on this life road, he was what I needed at the time so I can grow and evolve. Now that I have evolved the universe will render a new soul mate that will teach me new lessons about myself, I just hope my love taught my ex something too.
I was so empty inside growing up so I was always searching to fill my insides up with instant-gratifications. Booze, sex, money, attention, food, getting skinny. I was searching to make me whole inside with outside stuff. Stuff goes away and never last. I did not realize healing started from within and is work that is constant. Whether an addict or a non-addict we all have healing to do. This upcoming year will be an adventure finding me every day and experience a new sober life. Sober is the new black.
Stay connect with love, Adolfo Vasquez
Eddie Vedder is such an amazing artist and the soundtrack for into the wild which is a brilliant film is perfect.
Sober Is The New Black 
You have done so well, I read your updates every day and I keep you in my prayers. I am so proud of you!
I never liked when people referred to relationships as having failed; instead I’ve come to see some as having expiration dates.
Eddie Vedder’s soundtrack is indeed haunting and beautiful, as is the film. Don’t know if you’ve read Jon Krakauer‘s book on which it’s based, but the Chris McCandless’s sister has just released a book, The Wild Truth.
Another thoughtful post.
Thank you so much, for the read. very grateful. Yes I believe the universe knows exactly what we need, by putting people in are life so we can evolve. so many wonderful lesson i learn about myself. many soul mates. he was what i need at the time to bring me here today.
I have read it, love it, the film also. When i listen to Eddie Vedder, He takes me to another place. I have to check out that book!
Yes, that soundtrack is different from any I’ve heard. It resonated immediately. I’m halfway through her book -it’s not easy reading.