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Adolfo Vasquez
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DAY 98 Sober: Forgiving my parents Oprah Way
Hello friends, its day 98 sober. It’s has been a busy day but feeling very grateful for this sober mind that helps me get through the day. Around this time in the past I would be past out drunk, so glad I have more hours in my day to create from within. I have started working my second job, I am so grateful for it. The hours, pay and environment are great. It’s a type of job with tons of deadlines and pressure but I’ve done it for years and use to it. The difference this year is I am sober. In the past it was ok to have a drink and work, maybe even a bottle of wine or some Macallan 12. Now it will be a total different experience. Some Pellegrino or coffee will do.I don’t miss the feeling or even the taste of booze; the only thing I miss is hanging out, the social aspect, meeting new peeps. Right now I just don’t have the time to be out, I have a few things in the works for Sober is the New Black. I do miss the bar food, I am a huge foodie.
On my way to this café in Koreatown I was looking out the window and seen this guy who appeared to be homeless stumbling around with a beer bottle in his hand, this disorder is real and I have to always be aware of the mind disorder. I felt empathy because the only thing that separates me from him is my sobriety. I am glad I am aware of what will happen if I pick up again. I am one drink away from death so I can’t have a next drink.
Today I spoke to my real mom on the phone and for the first time, I had no anger for her or hate. I felt love, it was weird because in the past I would be really annoyed or short temper when see called. I am learning how to forgive her and not really for her but for me. I need to happy and I wont if I carry hate for my parents. Forgiveness takes time. Not only do I want to forgive them I want a relationship. I want them to know me and I now them, If they want. My mom was a bit upset when I started this blog but now she understand this blog wasn’t about her it was about me healing. No matter how many times I was abused by my parents I still long for a friendship. My parents are also addicts so going through my addiction has brought me a deep understanding of my parents. My mom isn’t in the best place but I know she is working for a better tomorrow. I still have a bit of fear when I see my dad, when I see him I get nervous and say only a few words. It will take some more work but I would like to be friends with my father. I am also realizing I don’t really need parents in my life. Everything I need is in me; I just got to create love, joy, security, passion and growth. I can create friendships with others by being the best me and attracting that in my life. I just hope my parents find the serenity I do in this moment. Sober is the new Black.
I have to share this video from Oprah Winfrey again it Change the way I forgive, so powerful and i hope it helps
Stay connect with love, Adolfo Vasquez
DAY 98 Sober: Rich in soul poem
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Adolfo Vasquez
DAY 97 Sober: Me the Co Creator of My Life
Hello friends, today is day 97 sober it has been amazing. Its getting close to 100 days of sober (hint, hint). As I get deeper into being sober, I am realizing sobriety cant fix everything in life but it helps to deal with life. Sobriety for me is dealing with life with what I got. I have to make sure my mind is capable of healing on its own without substance. Life will get hard, people close to me will pass, I will fall down, get heart broken and maybe even make huge errors that are lessons to be learn. But I am SOBER and that my friend will help me see the lessons I need to learn. Help me go inside and fix my wounds. Cope with people passing or even me getting sick. Growing up I was never taught how to cope with the world and my feelings. I am so bless, to be alive to see the stuff that needs to be tuned up. I am 28 years old and sober. I know they say take it one day at a time but my dream are no longer filled with milestones of money, my dreams are me receiving a cake from my home group for 30 years sober. That my friend is possible but the strength it takes to achieve that and the lessons to get there are unimaginable. I want to always inspire people from within themselves. Everybody matters, take my ego out and I am him or her.
I just have to stay connected with my higher power and me the co creator of life. Most of the time when I write these post I start to cry because I now how much tears, pain and work it took me to get here, in this moment, I have to stay grateful and Clear minded. Every moment sober is a gift, The moment on stage winning an Oscar will be the same as when I stop and look at a rose from a garden, both took the same work and effort to be sober for that moment to happen so both are equal. People always talk about a pink cloud but I broaden my pink cloud to allow me to be human because even the worse day sober is a pink cloud because I am feeling life how a human should. For me it all comes down to my mind and being positive. It doesn’t happen over night. Its like a skill you have to work to become great, like a muscle the more you use it the stronger it gets. So even hardest moments feels like breeze. Sober is the New Black. I am grateful for people with more days than me who create a path of wisdom to help me become wise. For people with less days Than me who inspire me to inspire them. For the wisdom I gain in the past 97 days sober that helps me create from within. For all the online support and for people who I stare at daily who are seeing me blossom from the Adolfo that’s always been afraid into only brave.
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Demi Lovato Skyscraper, Life can get so bad but i will standing on my feet tall like a Sober Skyscraper
DAY 97 Sober: “Endless Possibility” Poem
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Adolfo Vasquez
DAY 96 Sober: The best I can Be
Hello friends today is day 96 sober, it’s been a great day so far. I feel like I need more reading in my life, going to look for newly sober book. With every day that passes my love for myself gets stronger and what used to hurt me or anger me, no longer does. The Only thing that matters is how I feel about myself, I need to constantly be working towards creating a better me, do what works best for me. In the past I got sober for all the wrong reason, hence my relapse.
I celebrate being sober everyday like a birthday even if I am sad because I am coping with life. That’s amazing me dealing with life, I used to run from issues now I cut right true them. Getting to know myself is a great feeling, knowing what I want, what I need to work on, Instead of trying to be perfect, I am learning how to become more human. I don’t believe in mistakes I feel like the universe knows exactly what I need to experience so I can learn and grow. Lesson may not be seen right away but they will blossom at some point. Today living in a state of gratefulness is keeping me sober and being aware of the mental disorder, that voice that is losing its power as I write these words down.
Life seems very simple in sobriety not that chaos of drunken stumbles. Everything is flowing like that river. Just be the best I can be and the universe will work the rest. My brother Andrew will be moving out to LA sometime next week or so, very excited to have my brother out here, so much opportunity out here for him. Are home town is a great place to retire but not for finding your passion. I’ll never go back, it just memory filled. Not the ones I’d like to remember. People that want to see me make an effort I am grateful for that, those are the ones that have always made an effort as I do as well. Change is great opportunity whether change is wanted or not. My brother moving out here won’t affect my goals or my sobriety, my mind is clear. There are rules already in place that he is aware of, no booze or drugs allowed in my home period. I hope this move can give my brother some growth and long terms goals, anything is possible in life, you just have to want it really bad and work towards it with a positive mindset. Sober is the New Black. I am grateful for books, family, friends, love and making connections with people.
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Fitz and the Trantrums Moneygrabber is dedicated to the booze. Don’t come back you are no longer welcome in this home, you already blinded me in the past
DAY 96 Sober: “Lets just Be” poem
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DAY 95 Sober: Whatever will be will be
Hello friends, today is day 95 sober, yesterday I was feeling a bit sick but it’s from tiredness. I started working two jobs, writing and having a life is possible but it can be tiresome but sobriety is number one. Today I am feeling great! I went and got a haircut. I’ve been in bars and clubs, around friends and family who drink. Old places and new places still no need or want for that whiskey kiss. My mind loves this sober state; it was malnourish for so long. I now have nightmares of one day hanging out with friends and I accidently pick up their soda instead of mine and there is booze in it. That’s how focus I am in not ever drinking. Drinking is now a Nightmare. It feels good be coherent and not living in the past. I am learning to be focus yet not so hard and tense to allow greatness to flow out.
It no longer crosses my mind when I am around it, I forget people are drinking around me, it’s like the booze loss it power when I became aware of mind disorder. I am to focus on connection with people over what they are drinking. I am kind of the same me just a better version. I still love late night food runs, dancing, even making out but just sober. I am learning not everything physical around me has to change just my mind has to change. I see things differently now. I am also finding new love in things I never done before. New fun if you can call it; Like poetry, long walks and basketball. I don’t miss my old life anymore; I do miss the people but not my state of mind I was in. My body is looking great too. Overall I am exactly were I need to be. I no longer live in what if I would have done that differently. I accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, and create the wisdom to now the difference. I just want to be better than I was yesterday and so on. Sober is the New Black
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Doris Day whatever will be will be is perfect for this post, Que Sera Sera
DAY 94 Sober: “Unnoticed Child”Poem
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DAY 93 Sober: “Beer Fear” Poem
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Stay connect with love, Adolfo Vasquez
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